Who is wrong, who is right ?

Relationship could be very complicated or very simple. When two person get together, one of them will have request on the other person. For example, the guy smokes and the girl doesn't like it. The girl gamble , the guy hates it.

Consider this scenario :

A couple are together. The girl have a bad habit of drinking. She would drink once in awhile. However, if she drink, she probably get drunk and other guys around her take advantage of her. The guy feel very bad , insecure and worried about his gf. He told her he is very worried about her drinking habit , although its once in awhile. At first, the girl make up for the guy, saying she will avoid drinking. The guy still feel very insecure and not convinced by her, he keeps touching her drinking issue. The girl got stressed and unhappy with the guy, and end up drinking and got molested even more. The guy is sad. Now , anything the guy say, the girl wont listen. She became an alcoholic and the guy always worry about her.

Any ideas about this ? Does it sound familiar ? Are ur parents like the guy, and ur like the girl ?

Here is the thing.

(1)
The guy is right to talk about her bad habits. Wrong to keep saying it , which makes the girl feel he don't trust her, she got unhappy , and do it even more.

The girl is wrong for such behavior, right to change it for the guy, wrong to drink even more although the guy made her unhappy.

Wait , is it this simple ?

(2)
The girl know at her heart all the time, she got bad habit. She was a single and she didn't care. Plus, its only once in a while and not necessary get drunk. Now that she has a partner, she will change her bad habit on her own.

If she likes to behave like this now, the guy should let her change naturally. As long as he give her love, she will know what to do. He can let her know he doesn't like it, but it wont make much difference also. Might as well let her do it on her own.

New scenario :

A couple are together. The girl have a bad habit of drinking. She would drink once in awhile. However, if she drink, she probably get drunk and other guys around her take advantage of her. The guy feel very bad , insecure and worried about his gf. He let her know he doesn't like it. The girl try to change her habit. She still drink after that but wasn't completely drunk cause she remember the guy. The guy notice her improvement and love her even more. She feels good, and decided to give up drinking completely.

What is the different ? Just because the guy didn't keep touching the issue, she feel better ?
Not really.

(1) The guy feels very bad , and share his unhappiness with her. She feels the guy selfish, keep giving her unpleasant time, and got stressed. She hated the guy for his behaviour and go against what he ask her to do. She end up drinking more cause hate the guy.

(2) The guy feels very bad , let her know that he feels bad but then stop talking bout it. The girl see that the guy feel bad though he didn't talk about it, and feels bad for herself. She decided to improve.

See the difference ?

I'm glad my parents are (2). of course there are other possibilities as well.
Anyway, please become (2) everyone.
If ur at situation (1) , try apologize and give way. Its already in a bad situation, so one will have to give way for a long time before ur partner improve back. If he/she love u, it'll happen.